Key time management tip for busy mums
I had the honour of working with some wonderful mums over the past 2 weeks who were brave enough to add one more thing to their to-do- list and come along to my free workshops.
These workshops were designed to delve into what time management is for each of us. Everyone’s situation is unique, but there are some common threads that run though all our lives can hold the key to dealing with time management. In preparing for this workshop I reflected on my work with mums over the past 4 years and pieced together these threads to identify what we all, as mums tend to struggle with.
What I have discovered is that as mums we…
- Try to CONTROL the UNPREDICTABLE
- Are on duty 24/7 – it is RELENTLESS, we don’t often get a break
- Place enormous EXPECTATIONS on ourselves
- Never feel like we are doing ENOUGH because there is always more to do
- Often don’t see our SELFCARE as a priority
- Are EXHAUSTED from all the decisions – big and small
- Feel GUILTY that whatever we are doing it is not the right thing
- If we are not making MONEY we don’t feel like we should spend money on ourselves
In line with these threads and in wanting to bring you an acronym to help you remember my tips (I still recall the order of the planets and the colours of the rainbow thanks to my school learnt acronyms!) I offer the following tips…
STRUCTURE – Seek structure that works for you
SUPPORT – You are not alone – work as a family team
PRIORITISE – Self-care is not selfish
PLAN & DREAM – Work out your medium & long-term goals
OBSERVE – Notice how doing things makes you feel
REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS – It doesn’t always need to be perfect!
TRUST – Trust yourself! You are doing an awesome job
So my key time management tip for busy mums is to seek internal and external support.
1) Seek internal support by looking inwardly as summarised above, doing our own internal work, which is totally within our control.
2) Seek external support, as shown in my diagram above. To seek external support from those around us who support us not only in our day-to-day endeavors, but also help us to understand what is going on within us.
The truth is that time is finite, we can’t make any more of it. So it is what we choose to do with our time that is important
I realise that these tips are not just about time management, but also about life in general. Remove time from the equation and it boils down to what is important to us and ultimately who we want to be…
I feel that this post is inadequate in that I have not provided the stories and reasoning behind the ‘tips’ as I did in my presentation. I am endeavouring to work out how to record my free workshop presentation which would allow you a deeper experience… so stay tuned as I get that to work… (I am feeling a little technologically challenged right now… but I keep telling myself doesn’t need to be perfect!)
Yours in support