Resources and further information…
Last post I shared my time management tips for busy mums. The umbrella tip was to seek internal and external support… here I will endeavour to give you a bit more explanation and some resources.
STRUCTURE – Seek structure that works for you and be cons
tantly open to new ways of doing things.
You are doing this already by talking to others about what works for them, getting new ideas and trying new ways of working.
SUPPORT – You are not alone – work as a family team
It is easy to forget how capable our children are becoming. We are so used to doing everything for them as babies and toddlers and we take a certain pride in ‘doing’ things for our children. It is also often much easier and faster to do things ourselves, especially in the beginning however we need to remember that it is our job to equip our children for life without us and so getting them to contribute to making our home a nice place for all of us to live is important.
PRIORITISE – Self-care is not selfish
As mums we tend to look after everyone else first. Lets look at why we shouldn’t …
PLAN & DREAM – Work out your medium & long-term goals
This will alleviate some of the anxiety around what the future holds for you and help you to say no to things that aren’t in-line with what you are trying to achieve. To help with the planning and dreaming we offer you our ‘Happiness Evaluation Worksheet’ for free when signing up for our mailing list. This ‘snapshot’ helps you to take a step back and get an overview of you life. It is a great place to start. It can be tricky to work out the best way to move forward. If you would like some further help we offer both individual coaching and group programmes to help you get the life that you want.
OBSERVE – Notice how doing things makes you feel
Notice how saying yes to things make you feel e.g. say yes when you want to say no. Think of a time when you have said yes to something they really wanted to say no to. How did it make you feel? If things make you feel good – gratitude, joy, love – keep offering to do them. If they make you feel bad – resentment, guilt, frustration – work out a way to say no next time… To become the observer of your own life is a very powerful way to explore who you want to ‘be’. This article explains it beautifully…
REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS – It doesn’t always need to be perfect!
Here is a wonderful article by Ann Smith with some excellent tips around perfectionism and motherhood.
TRUST – Trust yourself! You are doing an awesome job.
I give you hear one of my favorite Ted Talks.
This will hopefully help you to see that we are living in a time of great parental challenge. The fact that you are still reading at the end of my post shows that you are an engaged, caring parent! Keep up the great work, and trust that you are doing an awesome job!
So, the last word on time management comes from one of my favourite books – “time never changes, the stuff of life never ends, you will never do everything you think you need, want or should do… So you have to decide… What do you want to accomplish in this life? …What is important to you right now? …Start with time for what’s most important…”
Yours in parenting